By Valerie X Armstrong
1.Take any clothes that don't fit you out of your closet or drawers. Sell them, donate them or give them away, just get them out of your personal space. If you want to pack them away somewhere out of sight, it's okay too. For some of us it's hard to get totally rid of clothing we spent a lot of money on because we think we might need it someday. As long as it is packed up and stashed away out of sight, hang on to it if you want to. Just don't stress over it. Sometimes we can swap our clothes that don't fit for those that do. You can either exchange with friends or family or sell them in consignment shops or on Ebay and buy new (or new to you) clothing with the proceeds.
If you don't have enough left to wear that actually fits you, buy some more outfits and undies, too, in a size that fits. It doesn't matter what the sizes are on the tags, as long as you like them and they fit you comfortably. Don't worry about the numbers. Put away your scales, or toss them...Your choice.
2. Stop any negative self-talk. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful. If you catch yourself thinking something bad about your size or weight or looks in general, immediately replace that thought with a positive one. Do loving things for yourself. Indulge once in a while by getting that bouquet of fresh flowers in the grocery store or that new perfume or a treat of some kind now and then whether it be a book you've been wanting to read or something else you enjoy.
3. Don't devote a single second of your time to those people who make you feel fat, unworthy, ugly, unlovable, or less than. Sometimes that is hard to do if it is family or co-workers. If you explain to them how their actions make you feel and they persist in their behavior, distance yourself from them as much as possible. Sometimes it might mean looking for another job...or avoiding family gatherings where they will be, until you gain more confidence in dealing with them, which will happen in time.
Always realize that what they say and how they treat you says more about them than it does about you. It is their own insecurities and shortcomings that they are taking out on you, whether they realize it or not. Regarding friends, people that make you feel bad are not your real friends. If after you've asked them to stop their negativity towards you and they continue to do it, get new friends. There are many kind, compassionate people out there looking for someone like you to befriend
4. Find some kind of enjoyable movement for your body. Walking either alone or with your dog (if you don't have a dog, you might consider getting one) or putting on some music and dancing around the room or swimming or hula hooping or playing with your kids, makes you appreciate your body and makes you feel good in general. There are many ways to have fun moving your body...biking, bowling, gardening or shopping in the mall, that keep you active, if you don't like regular gym type exercise. Just move as much as possible. Eating things that are good for you and going easy on things that are bad for you is always wise. Our bodies need certain nutrients to function properly and some processed foods are actually toxic to us. Just use common sense and moderation. Eat when you're hungry, stop when you're full. Care for your body like you would anything else that you love so it will last a long time.
5. Stop all "fat talk", about your body or anyone else's. Don't complain about your weight or comment on anyone else's. Don't dish the dirt with others about diets or weight loss or anything else pertaining to someone's size or shape, or your own.
6. Stop comparing yourself to others. Get rid of magazines that have airbrushed photos of models who are painfully thin. Change the channel when shows come on about celebrity weight gain or loss and mute the weight loss ads. Find a compassionate weight friendly doctor that doesn't blame every ailment on your weight. Don't believe the media messages that tell you you are not thin enough or pretty enough.They are false. They are just trying to sell you something.
7.Accepting yourself and loving yourself will not happen overnight. Surround yourself with like-minded people, read books on the subject, find kindred spirits online, become a size acceptance activist. It is all a process of deprogramming yourself of all the untrue messages you've been bombarded with for years. Little by little the old way of thinking will fade away. You will realize the truth and come to love yourself for the unique and awesome individual that you truly are.
1.Take any clothes that don't fit you out of your closet or drawers. Sell them, donate them or give them away, just get them out of your personal space. If you want to pack them away somewhere out of sight, it's okay too. For some of us it's hard to get totally rid of clothing we spent a lot of money on because we think we might need it someday. As long as it is packed up and stashed away out of sight, hang on to it if you want to. Just don't stress over it. Sometimes we can swap our clothes that don't fit for those that do. You can either exchange with friends or family or sell them in consignment shops or on Ebay and buy new (or new to you) clothing with the proceeds.
If you don't have enough left to wear that actually fits you, buy some more outfits and undies, too, in a size that fits. It doesn't matter what the sizes are on the tags, as long as you like them and they fit you comfortably. Don't worry about the numbers. Put away your scales, or toss them...Your choice.
2. Stop any negative self-talk. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful. If you catch yourself thinking something bad about your size or weight or looks in general, immediately replace that thought with a positive one. Do loving things for yourself. Indulge once in a while by getting that bouquet of fresh flowers in the grocery store or that new perfume or a treat of some kind now and then whether it be a book you've been wanting to read or something else you enjoy.
3. Don't devote a single second of your time to those people who make you feel fat, unworthy, ugly, unlovable, or less than. Sometimes that is hard to do if it is family or co-workers. If you explain to them how their actions make you feel and they persist in their behavior, distance yourself from them as much as possible. Sometimes it might mean looking for another job...or avoiding family gatherings where they will be, until you gain more confidence in dealing with them, which will happen in time.
Always realize that what they say and how they treat you says more about them than it does about you. It is their own insecurities and shortcomings that they are taking out on you, whether they realize it or not. Regarding friends, people that make you feel bad are not your real friends. If after you've asked them to stop their negativity towards you and they continue to do it, get new friends. There are many kind, compassionate people out there looking for someone like you to befriend
4. Find some kind of enjoyable movement for your body. Walking either alone or with your dog (if you don't have a dog, you might consider getting one) or putting on some music and dancing around the room or swimming or hula hooping or playing with your kids, makes you appreciate your body and makes you feel good in general. There are many ways to have fun moving your body...biking, bowling, gardening or shopping in the mall, that keep you active, if you don't like regular gym type exercise. Just move as much as possible. Eating things that are good for you and going easy on things that are bad for you is always wise. Our bodies need certain nutrients to function properly and some processed foods are actually toxic to us. Just use common sense and moderation. Eat when you're hungry, stop when you're full. Care for your body like you would anything else that you love so it will last a long time.
5. Stop all "fat talk", about your body or anyone else's. Don't complain about your weight or comment on anyone else's. Don't dish the dirt with others about diets or weight loss or anything else pertaining to someone's size or shape, or your own.
6. Stop comparing yourself to others. Get rid of magazines that have airbrushed photos of models who are painfully thin. Change the channel when shows come on about celebrity weight gain or loss and mute the weight loss ads. Find a compassionate weight friendly doctor that doesn't blame every ailment on your weight. Don't believe the media messages that tell you you are not thin enough or pretty enough.They are false. They are just trying to sell you something.
7.Accepting yourself and loving yourself will not happen overnight. Surround yourself with like-minded people, read books on the subject, find kindred spirits online, become a size acceptance activist. It is all a process of deprogramming yourself of all the untrue messages you've been bombarded with for years. Little by little the old way of thinking will fade away. You will realize the truth and come to love yourself for the unique and awesome individual that you truly are.
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